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Originally posted by FireVirgo:
Hey, so am I! 😄I *know* I can be very “me first”. But if I don’t take care of myself first, I will be useless to everyone else. That’s just how it is!
Sorry, not sorry.
there's a difference between self care and being selfish though, self care isn't selfish disregarding other people's needs while you care for yourself is
everyone can be selfish at points that's just human, but when it's an inherent personality trait someone has i consider it an issue honestly
balance is important and all that **** , and sometimes that means putting other people first and weighing your needs against theirs and seeing what you can go without so they can have
a "me first" attitude just doesn't make sense to me in a lot of situations, seems like everyone eventually loses in that case because you can't possibly always put yourself first and have relationships with other people that make them feel valued
sacrifice can be important in the bigger picture, and sometimes a loss in the present leads to something better in the future
@ReachingForTheStars
i don't really know any other virgos very well, there's a couple i speak to occasionally and have known for years and we have deep conversations when we speak but then i don't necessarily even speak to them once a year so there's an odd detachment/intimacy dynamic there none of them have aries moons to my knowledge
so to be fair you know more than me since i only have myself as a sample size
i take care of myself as much as i need it, but generally speaking i'm a fairly apathetic person so it's not really a big deal to me to put other people first
aside from that my own relationship with my emotions is weird because i'm typically somewhat detached, someone has to be very close to really hit me much of anywhere and even then idk comes and goes really
anyway feelings are ephemeral generally so most aren't worth the trouble of placing any weight on them, mine, i know other people aren't me so considering them as an individual only makes sense
@Brenda_S
i get you, my fiancee can be like that where it's just like "oh ok i guess you're hijacking my **** " but i don't care when it comes to her, and with other people i've noticed but it has to hit a point where it's constant before i give a **** and honestly it's only ever been drug related (big surprise i'm sure)
i've always been cool with sharing drugs and alcohol because more people can just add to a good time, but when it's been consistent with someone and they're not just going through a hard time or whatever then i'm the type who just won't hang out with them like that after a while unless i'm really bored and everyone is busy then i'll suck it up and expect that they'll probably put in less than they'll use because it's just more trouble to deal with that than letting it slide and i don't care that much
i get you though, people like that can be annoying after a while and honestly i've never understood how someone can be comfortable not balancing **** out by reciprocating in some manner
in cases like that i tend to think of it more in terms of being thoughtless rather than selfish though like you said